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perception versus reality

oh my. the last day or two have been reminders that there is often more than meets the eye [especially on the internet]. and i'm not even talking about transformers... cool toys, though.

here at unleashed, i am basically accused of being pompous because... well, i don't know. because i use big words? i think that was it. whatever... i don't mind. i suppose if i didn't know me [what?] i might think this unleashed mdog was trying to "look smart". perception, or reality? i think those who know me know better than that. and those who don't know me can't be expected to know that. you know?

on a certain message board i frequent, it's been a busy day. accusations, misunderstandings, all kinds of good stuff. why? because we've never seen each other. it's hard enough to communicate when you can't see someone's expression and mannerisms... even harder when you've never seen the person. ah, the beauty of the internet... the sense of anonymity reigns supreme.

internet miscommunications aside, it already seems a challenge to discern perception versus reality in our own lives. the gap between what i see and what others see -- in my life and their own -- is often astounding to me. the most amazing people i know claim that they are too this, not enough that, their bodies aren't something, they're terrible at some such thing, etc.... and i want to scream, "why? why do you think this? why can't you see in you what i see in you?!" and of course, the reverse is true if i proceed to point out my own perceived shortcomings... either that or i have very dishonest friends. [just kidding.] funny how that works: clearly, others are living in denial, but me? oh, no. i've got my own self-perception down pat.

all for now. art thou intrigued by mine swill?
Posted on Wednesday, November 17, 2004 at 07:29PM by Registered Commentermdog | Comments12 Comments

Reader Comments (12)

how about "perceived reality"

rather than trying to decipher between perception and reality?
Nov 18, 2004 at 12:27AM | Unregistered Commentercarsten
isn't perceived reality really just perception though?

and are the words perceived and perception starting to look misspelled to anyone else?

welcome, btw.
Nov 18, 2004 at 11:04AM | Registered Commentermdog
I think perceived reality is perception. It definitely looks like the words are spelled wrong. Sometimes I'm glad that I don't see myself, b/c then I might feel worse than I already do. I guess we just judge ourselves so much harder than we judge our friends. Maybe it's better not to think about it too much...at some point I become paranoid about how I am perceived by someone else.
Nov 19, 2004 at 12:32AM | Unregistered Commenterjoy
on the contrary... i believe you would be pleasantly shocked at how others see you. i think you're amazing.
Nov 19, 2004 at 11:15AM | Registered Commentermdog
It's hard to say that. As weird as it sounds, we're not the same person to everyone we encounter... regardless of how much we try to be. I'm a different person to my older brother as I am to my little brother. I am a different to my observing doctor as I am to my patients. I am a different person to one friend than I am to another. See where I'm coming from?

It's hard to know what others think of you because we don't express to each other how we feel, sadly, until it's too late many times.

Does this make sense?
Nov 19, 2004 at 01:41PM | Unregistered CommenterSteve
steve - you said "It's hard to say that." what exactly is the "that" in question? i'm slow and require clarification.

i agree that we are different from person to person, friend to friend... i don't think that's weird at all. different people bring out different facets of our personalities. and yes, sadly, we don't often express to others how we feel about them... funny creatures, we are.
Nov 19, 2004 at 04:39PM | Registered Commentermdog
"that" = pleasantly shocked at how others see you
Nov 20, 2004 at 02:32AM | Unregistered CommenterSteve
ah... i see. that comment in particular wasn't a sweeping generalization; it was directed at one particular person. i couldn't possibly say that about you, for example, because i don't know you. joy, on the other hand, i've known for quite some time [along with mutual friends]. i see your point though.
Nov 20, 2004 at 11:39AM | Registered Commentermdog
Transformers! Robots in disguise!

Perhaps that's what we all are... robots in disguise. Metaphorically speaking, of course.
Nov 20, 2004 at 05:55PM | Unregistered Commenterhappyhearn
autobots rage their battle to destroy the evil toys, the decepticons...!
Nov 20, 2004 at 11:25PM | Registered Commentermdog
I certainly feel very inadequate at the moment. Like something must be wrong with me. Then I feel guilty for feeling that way. But I'm at a weird place right now.
Intriguing blog for sure.
Nov 22, 2004 at 10:21PM | Unregistered Commentermaren
thine swill doth ever continueth to intrigue, mine dearest friend :mrelectriccyan:
Nov 28, 2004 at 01:18AM | Unregistered Commenterlana

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