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i've been having one of those I'm 26 And Have Never Dated Anyone SO THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME days. i recognize this is supposed to be an irrational thought. but most days it actually seems extremely rational. and i'm not emotional or pms'ing at all. just matter-of-factly frustrated and confused and, frankly, a mite bit irritated with God. i mean come on already. so i was listening to "help!" today and it connected with me enough to post.

i don't know when i became this person but it's starting to drive me crazy.
yeah, well, same old same old. wtf.
Posted on Wednesday, March 1, 2006 at 12:16PM by Registered Commentermdog | Comments11 Comments

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i remember those days. still have 'em, in fact. about all sorts of different things.

there is nothing wrong with you, mdog. nothing at all.
Mar 1, 2006 at 03:34PM | Unregistered Commenteramo
i think i understand the irrational, yet rational thing. i go from one extreme to the other, especially on this issue. sometimes i just have to put it out of my mind alltogether (not easy). i truly commend you for being so open.

i wonder - is it possible to learn self-confidence?
Mar 1, 2006 at 07:02PM | Unregistered Commenterjoy
Just a thought... Do you hang out around single guys other than me, Rick and DiGi? I'm just getting into this whole dating thing again after a bit of a 'break,' so I'm sure I'll find some level of similar frustration soon enough.
Mar 1, 2006 at 10:27PM | Unregistered CommenterJared
gregory too... yeah, everyone else seems to be otherwise attached...

it's the twenty-six year drought that really is disconcerting. it's not the norm. and it's not a choice. i haven't been living in a cave or a convent. i enjoy my solitude but on the whole i feel i hang with humankind pretty well. i look at the facts and, well, it's hard to believe that this thinking isn't actually rational...
Mar 1, 2006 at 11:17PM | Registered Commentermdog
Sometimes rational thoughts are the most irrational.
Mar 2, 2006 at 09:15AM | Unregistered Commenterjared
I agree with Jared about rational thoughts.

Mdog, I have nothing new to say to you... I think you are great. And you know... I don't really understand it either. And not just about your situation either.

One of my good friends is 38, single, and he has never dated. I think he is good looking... he loves God, he is pretty funny... a nice guy. I don't get it.

What I do see happening is that he is turning bitter. Really bitter. And so he is withdrawing more and become less and less the kind of person that anyone would ever want to date...(not that that is the goal, btw)... and he has few friends.

How do you wrestle with God and have questions about your lot in life without becoming bitter... wow... a BIG issue for most of us... and not just about our dating lives.

I'm really glad I'm your friend and you are in my life. Just for the record.
Mar 2, 2006 at 11:37AM | Unregistered Commenterblogging paul
you know what you need? you need to get yourself down to the local shopping mall and get some glamour shots with deb.
Mar 2, 2006 at 02:34PM | Unregistered Commenterrachel
on the serious side, I have two words for you, and they are JOHN + STOTT. now go and figure out the relevance to your post. when you do this, you may weep with joy and anguish.
Mar 2, 2006 at 03:32PM | Unregistered Commenterrachel
wait... how did i not know that about john stott? encouraging and frightening all at once. and... frustrating. *cough*
Mar 2, 2006 at 03:56PM | Registered Commentermdog
Will it make you feel any better if I tell you that I'm 26 and have NEVER dated anyone, either? It's embarrassing when I tell people this because they never knew people like me existed. They always ask, 'so you've never had a boyfriend?' 'Does that mean you've never kissed a guy?' 'No, I'm serious now. You've never never never been kissed?'

It's especially depressing when my nephews and nieces are getting married and having kids.

Mar 12, 2006 at 08:02PM | Unregistered CommenterAngie
i don't think "better" would be the most accurate word, but yeah, i feel a little less alone. sooooooooo in the same boat.
Mar 13, 2006 at 07:23AM | Registered Commentermdog

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