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a friend of mine visited unleashed the other day and noted that the entire first page was rather grumpy. i hadn't really thought about it, but she was right; the comment threw me for a loop because i was in the midst of a mini-realization that day. sometimes i forget that people can't actually read my mind, and must instead rely on the information given out post by post on a less-than-regular basis.
i had been talking with katie the previous weekend and once again mentioned [read: reminded myself] that the majority of my days, my minutes, my seconds, are spent being very much okay with my household of one. i can go for a hike at a moment's notice; i can eat cookies for an appetizer; i can curl up with a blue moon and some pizza and watch a movie and revel in introversion. [of course, this was after a conversation that went something like this: "we could go to a bar and pick up guys." "oh yeah... dude. we could totally do that."  (silence)  "so, um... how do you even do that?" "are you kidding me? i have no idea."] at the time, i was speaking only of the daily ins and outs of life... living in the moment. i joked that i would record the exact ratio of happy singledom : unhappy singledom.
several days later and in the midst of my itunes party shuffle at work, i had a thought. it wasn't a new thought by any means; not by a long shot. but for whatever reason, it resonated with me that day. there are so many people i would not know if i was married right now. this seems obvious. dumb, even. and it can be applied to plenty of situations and decisions aside from marriage. but all things being equal, if i was otherwise attached, there are some pretty key people in my life that i might never have had the opportunity, time, or even interest in getting to know in quite the same way that i do now. this blows me away. because these are people i cannot even fathom not knowing. i can barely remember doing life without them. i really can't. my life is far richer than i could ever possibly have imagined before meeting these people, and for that i am grateful... thankful beyond words.
i feel like there are more thoughts tucked away somewhere, but it's far past my bedtime and i don't have the time to find them. perhaps tomorrow.
Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 at 11:58PM by Registered Commentermdog | Comments4 Comments

Reader Comments (4)

You know, that is an interesting reflection. I have always been aware that there are relationships I'm "missing" because I'm married. I can't tell you how many times a friend has asked me to do something and I can't because I have "obligations" at home. That is the "cost" of marriage and intimacy with one. But you see that from the other side, (the more positive side?), in that you can see the relationships you gain in having that freedom. For some reason I have never thought of that before.
Sep 25, 2006 at 07:59AM | Unregistered Commenterpaul
there is a time for everything, and a reason for every activity under heaven. (ecc. 3:1)

at the risk of sounding too byrds-like, there is a lot of truth in this. the people in our lives aren't there by accident, just as the lives we live are not accidental. as mr. seeger quoted (and as i paraphrase), there *is* a time and a purpose for everything.
Sep 25, 2006 at 06:33PM | Unregistered Commenteramo
ps--having a significant other doesn't mean you can't have cookies as an appetizer. ;)
Sep 25, 2006 at 08:31PM | Unregistered Commenteramo
paul - seriously? i'm surprised. i always realize it each time i pick up and go and do whatever i want [which, well, is most of the time]. of course, there are pros and cons to each side...
Sep 27, 2006 at 11:23AM | Registered Commentermdog

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