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exchange of life

"Pay attention," she whispered.
But it was impossible not to pay attention. However, gently and delicately, her fingers had probed to the very quick of his consciousness. And how intensely alive, he now noticed, those fingers were! What a strange tingling warmth flowed out of them!
"It's like an electric current," he marveled.
"But luckily," she said, "the wires carry no messages. One touches and, in the act of touching, one's touched. Complete communication, but nothing communicated. Just an exchange of life, that's all."

[found at story time]

i love that. an exchange of life.

somehow i have found myself in conversations regarding cuddle parties[!], snuggling, touching, and hugging [or non-hugging] during the past week or so. if this sounds at all familiar, it is because i have blathered on about this before here and here. and if you note the dates, apparently i have the need to talk about this nearly annually? anyway. if you search oxytocin+hug you will find all sorts of fun stuff regarding the power of touch, which i find very interesting [i particularly enjoy this post, also at story time]. one of the artlcles starts off like this, though:

"Between loving partners, between parents and children, or even between close friends, physical affection can help the brain, the heart and other body systems you might never have imagined."

okay. so the word "even" there? before the bit about close friends? irritates me to no end. like, omg, wow, can you EVEN IMAGINE? friends? showing physical affection? THE WORLD HAS GONE TOPSY-TURVY. BRING ME A DRINK.

it seems there is a very large chasm between childhood and dating/marriage where affection is somehow out of bounds. as a single woman in her late twenties, you can imagine this may be a little frustrating. what, just because i'm not married or dating i should be denied physical affection? it's healthy, you know! frankly, i'm glad i am a woman and that i can feel a little more free in the touchy-feely-ness area without society totally weirding out on me. although nowadays there are raised eyebrows at two women showing affection, too... sigh.

anyway, i started this thinking that i had some sort of point but am pretty sure i lost it somewhere along the way. it's a shame, too, because i think it was going to be awesome. for now i'll just say that hugs are physically, scientifically, and emotionally awesome, and that if you know me well... you know where to find one.

[in other news, apparently i cannot justify alignment in my entries anymore? rawr.]

Posted on Tuesday, July 29, 2008 at 11:04PM by Registered Commentermdog | Comments5 Comments

Reader Comments (5)


Jul 29, 2008 at 11:36PM | Unregistered Commenterpaul

"hugs are physically, scientifically, and emotionally awesome"

love that line! i totally agree that, as a single christian woman (ie. not seeking to fulfill the lusts of the flesh), i do not get enough physical touch either.. so i accost my friends and loved ones often, and especially my niece, who, fortunately, is a snuggle-bug. i used to be somewhat ashamed of the "need".. like i was some perv trying to mount anyone in my vicinity (okay, not THAT bad).. but i definitely felt like i was on some "no-touch island" in a world of married people!!

anywho, all that to say that i hear ya.

Jul 30, 2008 at 11:41AM | Unregistered Commenterlana

i also enjoy hugs. i would call myself a 'hugger.'

mainly just wanted to drop a line and let you know i'm in the blog mix now (well, as in, i'm finally taking it seriously)! hazzah! so, be warned that i'm reading your stuff... and feel free to read mine, if you wish: http://mylifehasasoundtrack1.blogspot.com.

hope all is well.

Jul 30, 2008 at 05:33PM | Unregistered Commentersam o

paul - <(-_-)>

lana - oh yeah, i totally accost people. bwahaha.

sam - hugs!! i do check in once in awhile. i'll be sure to check in more often if you're posting more often :D

Jul 31, 2008 at 12:08PM | Registered Commentermdog

Ha1! This takes me back to a funny and awkward moment. I was in an employee training years ago about sexual harrassment. At one point, the facilitator asked who was single. I raised my hand and....was the only one. He then proceeded to go on about how single people needed to get their "touch needs" met in ways that would not venture into inapropriate touching in the workplace and end up committing sexual harrassment against a coworker or client. Keep in mind - he was basically just talking to me. He went on about how "single people" (i.e. Jessi)should find other ways to get "their" (her)touch needs met - and asked for suggestions from the group. Here were some of the suggestions: get a hair cut. get a massage. get a cat.

So, there you go. Problem solved, thanks to the helpful folks at Seattle Catholic Community Services Sexual Harrassment training 2003.

Jul 31, 2008 at 11:36PM | Unregistered Commenterlemonscarlet

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